He doesn't. I haven't slept longer than three hours in a row (four if I am lucky) in over a year. I'm exhausted almost always. Thanks for the reminder. Sorry for the rude response. Like I said, I am tired.
From day one Isaac protested the whole solo sleep situation. He despised being on his back (huge happy dance when he started rolling over which meant we could let him sleep on his stomach). He had latch issues that went unaddressed for a painful six weeks; in the beginning the poor kid was constantly hungry. And for him, being born three weeks early made the fourth trimester very real - he needed the five S's and then some. Like his Mama, he is a high maintenance sleeper and never wants to miss a minute of what is surely a party (it isn't kid, I promise).
We have implemented varying degrees of modified Ferber method many, many times. Finding a week when none of the members of our trio is sick or traveling makes it challenging, we live in an apartment building so must be mindful of the neighbors, and let me tell you when this kid digs in, he DIGS IN. But we have persisted, to almost zero success. Dare we deny him milk at midnight, we are sure to hear about it for three-plus hours or until one of us caves (is it caving though if it works and allows him to return to sleep calmly?) and gives him a bottle and a snuggle in the rocking chair.
I refused to attempt cry-it-out before six months; like Penelope Leach, I value baby-parent bonding, building trust and security among all else. I simply do not believe that children under two have the ability to "play" their parents. But that's me; I know there are many successful method of parenting. We will close the door and walk away while Isaac fusses, but not for anything longer than 10 minutes, we’ve tried, the escalation in his screams is more than unsettling. When we go in, we follow our hearts and stay there until he is calm, even if it means picking him up and holding him close, something “sleep trainers” advise against. We tend to subscribe to a slightly less attachment-y version of the Doctor Sears style. The Sears' website is always my first stop for topic-specific advice. We don't bedshare like their family but I like that they are not staunch about it and give wonderfully helpful, rooted-in-science, baby-comfort-focused information on a myriad of issues that arise in the early months. (Nursing strike? Possible ear infection. And it was!).
It stands to reason that at some point he will sleep through the night. Hopefully before he leaves for college. When the most recent round of daycare plague subsides we might give Ferber another go; Isaac is older now and has a firm grasp on object permanence (as evidenced by his ability to find my iPhone) he knows, unlike a 3-month old, that he has not been abandoned when we leave the room.
In the meantime I’ll continue to go to bed at 8:30pm, spend my days with coffee in hand, and ignore “Does he sleep through the night?” questions from folks I assume are well-meaning. I know these first years are not forever and if I get some extra snuggles out of the sleep strike situation occurring in my house, I’ll do my best to consider it a silver lining.